I think people broadly agree with this statement, in that people believe that Nix/NixOS shouldn’t be beholden to the wants or needs of Anduril, but that it means different things to different people.
There seems to be base disagreement on what that would look like, whether or how it is happening, what are reasonable guardrails to stop ${whatever_discussant_believes_that_looks_like}, and on the relative importance of outcome on this particular decision axis (Anduril) vs. the mechanisms used to get there that effectively create precedent with resultant outcomes on the shape of future community-led processes.